Married At First Sight bride Julia Vogl has turned one of the most painful moments of her reality television experience into a surprise new business venture.The former bride has launched Mindgasm: The Deeper Dating Game, a card game designed to help couples move beyond superficial small talk and build emotional intimacy.The idea was born after Julia was mocked for producing a list of questions while attempting to form a deeper connection with her on-screen husband, Grayson, during Intimacy Week.’I often joke that this product I’ve created, which is called Mindgasm, was my most expensive therapy project,’ she exclusively told Daily Mail.’I was in a situation while I was on the show where I was trying to build genuine connection with someone who I had just met a few weeks before.’I knew that if my partner and I were going to connect mentally, emotionally, spiritually and physically, it had to start with a really good conversation.’ Married At First Sight bride Julia Vogl has turned one of the most painful moments of her reality television experience into a surprise new business venture. Pictured with Grayson McIvor The former bride has launched Mindgasm: The Deeper Dating Game, a card game designed to help couples move beyond superficial small talk and build emotional intimacyJulia brought out a list of questions during the experiment because she believed meaningful conversation could help the newlyweds develop a genuine bond.But the exercise received a frosty response from Grayson and was ridiculed by viewers online.’I genuinely believe good questions create really good relationships, and that’s how I cultivate attraction to someone,’ she explained.’It was received really badly. People online laughed. My partner didn’t like it.’It just made me think afterwards, ‘Why is wanting to get to know someone deeply considered weird? What is that about?”It was that experience that planted the seed for Mindgasm.’Announcing the venture, Julia said she had spent months quietly developing something which had been ‘genuinely life-changing’.’Mindgasm is so much more than just a game, it’s a response to how we date now,’ she said. The idea was born after Julia was mocked for producing a list of questions while attempting to form a deeper connection with her on-screen husband, Grayson, during Intimacy Week ‘I often joke that this product I’ve created, which is called Mindgasm, was my most expensive therapy project,’ she exclusively told Daily Mail’We live in a culture of fast swipes, quick hookups and fleeting connections. Everything feels superficial and transient.’When I was on Married At First Sight, I experienced this first-hand. I wanted to feel connected to my partner and build emotional intimacy first before we jumped headfirst into bed. People laughed at me and thought I was weird.’But for me, emotional chemistry has always been the precursor to sexual chemistry. And I’ve since realised I’m far from the only one who feels that way.’Julia said she created the very thing she wished she had been able to pull out during her troubled marriage.’Mindgasm is fun, playful, spicy and vulnerable,’ she said.’It’s an invitation to ask better questions and to lead with curiosity.’The game is divided into three levels, beginning with The Spark, which focuses on fun, curiosity and playful conversation.The second level, Get Real, explores a player’s values, upbringing and past, while The Deep End encourages couples to become more vulnerable. ‘I was in a situation while I was on the show where I was trying to build genuine connection with someone who I had just met a few weeks before”It’s not a test. It’s meant to be fun and playful,’ Julia said.’It’s a fun way to ask questions and get to know someone deeper than you would normally.’Julia believes modern daters have become experts at making polished first impressions but are struggling to form authentic connections.’We’re taught how to flirt, we’re taught how to text and we’re taught how to curate ourselves online, but no one actually teaches us how to build emotional intimacy properly,’ she said.She said turning the concept into a game gives couples permission to ask questions they might ordinarily avoid.’It gives us permission to be vulnerable without feeling awkward,’ she explained.’It gives us permission to put our phones down, be really present and actually be fascinated by another human being.’You can ask one good question and spend the whole night chatting away. For me, that’s what builds emotional intimacy and safety, and that’s what makes me feel really attracted to someone.’ Julia believes modern daters have become experts at making polished first impressions but are struggling to form authentic connectionsLooking back at her televised marriage one year later, Julia admitted she wished she had the cards available while attempting to break through Grayson’s guarded exterior.’I can’t tell you how much I wish I had this in my back pocket when I was on the show,’ she said.’If I did, I feel like maybe I could have broken through a little bit more with Grayson.’But when you’re trying to understand someone and get to know them and they’re literally looking at you like you’re an idiot, it just doesn’t feel inviting.’She cheekily suggested she might even send her former on-screen husband a pack.’Maybe I should send him one,’ she joked.The launch comes one year after Julia walked down the aisle at the Sydney Opera House, a day she still describes as ‘magical’ despite the difficult marriage that followed.’I can’t believe that literally this time last year I would have been at the reception dinner at the Sydney Opera House,’ she said. The launch comes one year after Julia walked down the aisle at the Sydney Opera House, a day she still describes as ‘magical’ despite the difficult marriage that followed’I would have just gotten married in that beautiful white gown. It was such a magical day, it’s unreal.’But a year later, life feels so different now.’Julia admitted filming the reality juggernaut was an isolating and emotionally demanding experience.’Filming was really challenging because I was so far away from my friends and family and everything I had known,’ she said.’Your life feels like it has been turned upside down, and there is a lot of pressure on you to make something work with someone who is essentially a stranger.’She said it was particularly painful when she questioned whether her partner was being truthful with her.’If you’re going in with a particular intention and you don’t feel like the other person is being truthful to you, or is throwing you under the bus, then that can really hurt,’ she said.Watching the heavily scrutinised relationship play out before the nation brought another challenge.[embedded content] Julia admitted filming the reality juggernaut was an isolating and emotionally demanding experience’You’re seeing this particular version of you, maybe one particular angle of you, because we’re all so multifaceted,’ Julia explained.’Especially when you’re not received that well by the public, that can really hurt. No one wants not to be liked, and it’s the most watched show in the country.’However, Julia said she had refused to allow the backlash to define her.’There are lessons in that, and you can either choose to learn from them or you can choose to be a victim of them,’ she said.’I’ve definitely chosen to learn from being in this extreme environment.’Her advice to the show’s future brides and grooms is to abandon any carefully crafted strategy and trust their instincts.’Follow your gut and stay true to yourself,’ she said.’It is such a difficult environment to be in. You can’t really have a plan. If you think you have a plan, it will always go a different way. ‘There are lessons in that, and you can either choose to learn from them or you can choose to be a victim of them,’ she said’If you stick to your instincts, follow your heart and you’re authentic, then you’ll be able to sleep well at night. It doesn’t really matter what the outcome is or what public perception is.’While Julia conceded the experiment was not always enjoyable, she has no regrets about how she conducted herself.’I wouldn’t say it was the most enjoyable experience. It was really challenging,’ she said.’But I sleep so well at night because I know that I was really honest and authentic. I was true to myself and I had a good intention.’Julia has since found love away from the cameras and revealed she is now in a blissfully happy relationship.’I’m now with someone who fits me. We fit well,’ she said.’We play this all the time, even though we’re not dating and we’re in a relationship. People in long-term relationships can still play it.’She described the past 12 months as unlike any other year of her life, saying she initially felt as though she had been ‘catapulted’ into the public eye and placed under intense scrutiny.But after meeting her new partner and focusing on personal growth, Julia said she is happier than ever.’I’ve been working on growing, learning and creating new things since the show,’ she said.’I’m probably in the best headspace that I’ve been in over the past year.’I’m feeling the happiest and healthiest that I’ve felt, and that feels really, really good.’Julia said Mindgasm allowed her to reclaim a chaotic chapter of her life and turn the ridicule she experienced into something positive.’It feels really good to take a pretty crazy part of my life and alchemise it into this little game,’ she said. ‘It’s super cool.’Join the discussionIs emotional intimacy more important than physical chemistry when building a lasting relationship?What’s your view? Julia said Mindgasm allowed her to reclaim a chaotic chapter of her life and turn the ridicule she experienced into something positiveShe also hopes the game will challenge the pressure daters face to rush into sex before establishing a meaningful emotional connection.’There is this big pressure in society to create physical or sexual intimacy really quickly, like that’s a goalpost,’ she said.’I really don’t feel like that’s always necessary.’Getting turned on by the way someone thinks, the way they make you feel and the way they communicate – I’m all about that.’Really knowing yourself and getting to know someone before you start being physical with them is a completely normal and valid way of getting to know someone.’As for the game’s provocative name, Julia revealed it came from a memorable remark she made during filming.’When I was on the show, they asked me how I wanted to feel with Grayson, and I said, ‘I just want to have a mindgasm,’ she recalled.’For that to be received like you’re a freak for wanting to get to know someone – that was when I really knew this person wasn’t for me.’I’d rather go on one date with someone, use this and know I don’t want another one than waste months and months of my time.’And Julia has firm standards when it comes to finding a compatible partner.Her biggest dating ‘ick’ is someone who does not listen or is rude to waiters, while her biggest turn-on is a date who is genuinely curious about her.’Someone who comes across as really fascinated and interested in me and asks a million questions,’ she said.As for whether exes can remain friends, Julia was unequivocal.’Absolutely,’ she said, revealing she remains close to a former partner and his new girlfriend.She recalled how her ex publicly supported her during the show when viewers speculated about her sexuality.’He was really feeling for me during that time and backing me when a lot of people were claiming that I was a lesbian,’ she said.’He was like, ‘She’s definitely not.’ That was so beautiful.’Mindgasm: The Deeper Dating Game is now officially available.